When the prospect of divorce looms, it's natural for thoughts to turn to an uncertain future, with worries about financial stability and support obligations clouding the mind. Amidst this tumultuous period, a multitude of unknowns surface, both financially and emotionally. However, contrary to stereotypes, most couples genuinely seek fairness and equity in their divorce proceedings. Despite the challenges and anxieties, it's essential to approach this life-altering transition with care and thoughtfulness, aiming to create a path forward that ensures stability, peace, and justice for everyone involved.

The concept of fairness in divorce is deeply subjective, shaped by individual experiences, emotional wounds, and unresolved grievances within the marriage. It's a complex terrain where each person's idea of fairness may reside on separate peaks, divided by a river of conflicts and resentments. This stark reality has given rise to a thriving multi-billion-dollar divorce industry. Perhaps there's an alternative perspective worth exploring.

Imagine if you released the insistence on absolute fairness in divorce proceedings. It might sound unconventional but consider this perspective. What if both parties focused not on what the other person was receiving but instead engaged a divorce financial planner to determine what each of them individually needs to ensure their well-being? Subsequently, they could meet with a mediator, starting from this foundation. It might not result in a perfectly equal division, nor meet conventional notions of "fairness," but what if it simply worked, benefiting everyone involved? That could truly be a win-win solution.



Forget about fairness! Release that notion and shift your focus to what truly matters: the upcoming phase of your life and how you can embark on it in a manner that fosters your well-being and preserves your family's unity for the future. As I often advise my clients, my aim is to assist you in becoming the best divorced family possible because, at the core, you remain a family.