Overwhelmed, anxious, desolate, disturbed, heartbroken, furious, embittered, but also experiencing relief and hope. These emotions form the complex tapestry of the divorce experience, a journey that is anything but easy. It's a path no one should have to walk alone. In today's world, where divorce is increasingly common, there are numerous resources available to support you, offering guidance and empathy to help you move through this difficult period while preserving your self-respect and dignity. 

While friends and family are invaluable for emotional support, offering a shoulder to lean on and reminding you of your worth during this challenging time, it's crucial to approach their advice with caution. Their perspectives, though well-intentioned, can often be uninformed or subjective, potentially clouding your judgment. For sound, objective advice, it's advisable to seek guidance from professional experts in the field. Their unbiased insights will better equip you to navigate the complexities of divorce, ultimately helping you emerge from this experience in a healthier, more positive state. 

 
An important resource to have during the divorce process and for a period afterward is 

1. A Supportive Therapist: The emotional turmoil brought on by divorce necessitates the guidance of a qualified therapist. They provide a space to process your feelings and understand your part in the dissolution of your marriage. This clarity is vital for setting goals for your future and is essential in building healthier relationships, avoiding the repetition of past mistakes. 

1. Local Non-Profit Organizations: Many communities across the country have non-profit organizations dedicated to providing support for those going through a divorce. In Wisconsin, we have Divorce Care: https://www.divorcecare.org/. For more information, you should check your local community listings to find these invaluable resources near you. 

1. Financial Advisor or CDFA®: A common and understandable concern during divorce is financial security, with many wondering, "Will I be okay financially?" It's a valid question. Before finalizing any settlement, it's wise to seek a professional opinion. Financial projections and advice can provide clarity on your future financial outlook. While I recommend consulting a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA®), who is specially trained in divorce-related financial issues, getting guidance from a qualified financial planner is also a beneficial step. This approach ensures you're making informed decisions about your financial future post-divorce. 

1. Online Resources: The internet is a vast resource for those going through a divorce, with new sites emerging regularly that offer free information, downloadable materials, blogs, referrals, and directories. The abundance of information available can be overwhelming, so it's important to select what resonates with you and ignore what doesn't. Approach this process slowly and with self-compassion. While online support can be invaluable, it's also crucial to focus on recovery and moving forward. Support groups, whether online or in person, should be used as a means to progress through the grieving process and not as a place to remain indefinitely. It's all about healing and stepping into the next chapter of your life with confidence and clarity. 

This period in your life will undoubtedly be difficult, but it also holds the potential for growth and happiness. Remember, the strength and positivity you find in the future depend greatly on the choices you make now. Leverage the resources at your disposal to make informed, beneficial decisions for yourself. Embrace today as the beginning of your new journey, a fresh start that can lead to a fulfilling and contented life.